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Chose daycare over sending the baby to my parents' place and the guilt trip has been next level

Indore_to_Mumbai · · 🫂 0 been there

Maternity leave ended, and the "obvious" solution in my family was sending the baby to my parents in Indore while we both kept working in Mumbai. I couldn't do it, didn't want to miss the daily stuff, so we found a daycare 10 minutes from home instead. You'd think I'd chosen to abandon her from some of the reactions.

Three months in, it's working. She has a routine, a genuinely lovely primary caregiver there, and I get to do drop-off and pick-up most days. Not saying grandparent care is worse, for a lot of families it's clearly wonderful, just saying daycare isn't the lesser option it gets painted as either. It's about what actually fits your setup.

If you're evaluating daycares: ask about the caregiver-to-baby ratio directly, anything above 1:4 for infants is worth questioning, ask their sick-child policy before you need it not after, and don't skip actually watching a normal hour there unannounced if they'll let you, not just the polished tour. CCTV access if they offer it is a nice bonus but not a substitute for actually checking the place out yourself first.

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